Dealing with Separation

Fortunately or unfortunately, this moment comes to all couples.

The most feared, least expected at the beginning: the separation.

There are two easy ways to deal with it but first, we take a step foolproof, give us time.

Our minds and our hearts must be a "breather", the mythical moment "Kit Kat" that makes us evaluate our failures recompose and in the relationship, the failures of others, our own feeling, and the possibility of facing a new life.

When you pass this hard time, in which we are very little goals, start the actual moment of confrontation.

If you're still seeing (either by obligation issues a relationship "official" or is wanted) you could consider couples therapy, if deemed necessary.

Couples therapy, increasingly popular among society, is a useful tool to achieve the goals we are more difficult to solve by ourselves.

Together with a psychologist @, we can put on the table the issues that we want to try or change to reach the objectives.

There is no fear that a "stranger" to know our intimacies, is only a mediator who helps facilitate the work of troubled couples, which is used to hearing all kinds of situations.

Focusing on a theme common enough, let's see how we can "treat" our partners: infidelity.

It is quite typical and common for a couple suffering an infidelity by a partner or both. When this occurs, it is very painful, especially for the "cheated", but the person who carried it out, you feel bad emotionally for the damage caused to another, even repented, and eager to fix his mishap.

One way to cope, as mentioned, is to go to couples therapy. In couples therapy, the practitioner will discuss, along with the couple, the key points that led to this situation.

Some points you should consider to address the problem are:

- Rejection of guilt, we must remove the label of "you're guilty." That alone will lead to a continued refusal of the other, not empathize with him.

- Analyze the moments before the start of infidelity: we must consider everything that happened during the time prior to the start of the extra connection, because the problem may have been a consequence of conflict situations, this does not absolve responsibility was the fact, but can help better understand the causes that led him to do.

- Observe the feeling that unites the couple to carry out the objectives (start the relationship again), to assess our love for one another is key, because if not, reconciliation is impossible.

- Forgiveness: punish the other for something that happened over a period of time past, that takes us martyred ourselves. We must look to the future.

- Confidence: sad as it may seem, do not know if we can go back again. On the other hand, confidence may also have seen another truncated.

When we start a relationship, establish a "list of promises" to be consolidated, which may have been raped by two members of the union over the same and can be cause of the infidelity. For example, apart from the other emotionally.

- To punish us for having an extra relation: we will not know if this will happen, like the point of trust, do not know what will happen in the future. If the relationship ends going well, does not have to spend any of this, but never know if we have not tried.

Just know, if we go forward, trusting in the love that we feel does not happen again.

After analyzing the above, we agree on a flex point in which to make the promise to erase all the past and start anew, not from scratch, because that would be impossible, but if, reborn from the ashes.

Nothing is impossible if there is commitment and desire. The only important thing to achieve, is to be happy, our great emotional goal.